Many of us face with such tags and negative labels given to us by our near and dear ones which we hold onto and it creates some amount of emotional damage in a long run as well.
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Using people’s opinions or our own perception, we sometimes put labels on our self, such as – I am slow, I am aggressive. Repeated negative affirmations of labels on the self increase that behavior in us. Labels we put on our self or people put on us, become repeated thoughts and words about our personality. They become our reality, till we decide to change our labels.
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How to change the negative labels
1. Check if since your childhood, people had certain things to say about your incorrect habits or behaviors. Their intentions were pure, and they wanted you to change. But they gave you negative labels like you are lazy or you are careless and so on.
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2. It is possible that you accepted the negative labels people gave you, made them your identity, thereby reaffirming that personality trait of being lazy or careless. When you repeatedly say – I am so and so, you reinforce it. It signifies who you are and who you will be.
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3. Make a list of all the negative labels you have absorbed from others and are still holding on to. Over a period, they have become affirmations and a part of your vocabulary, obstructing your success and happiness.
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4. Check if you say anything negative about yourself. Even if it is a reality, replace them with pure, positive labels. Repeat it for a few days till it becomes your positive identity.
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5.Use the DICC technique Direct, instruct, command , compel your mind to redirect and function your mind and body as your way. Say it to yourself ” I direct , instruct, command and compel my body to work in a certain way( mention it:- E.g. :- if I want to heal my injury in my knees be very specific that ” i direct, instruct, command and compel my knee joints to heal faster and work in a perfect condition as it is meant for) Be very specific and put exactly the same words as you need . Repeatedly we need to say it to ourselves throughout the day and min 21 to 40 days we need to continue and see how faster you recover and get back.
– Puspanjali Senapati (Yoga and Holistic wellness Expert)
